Does your child want to develop their independence, but you find it hard to let go? It’s important to support your child’s development and prepare them for adolescence.
Independence in children: what are we talking about?
A child’s independence starts with learning to do things for themselves. Whether it’s eating, walking, washing or tying shoes, the first stage in a child’s autonomy involves taking action. But it also involves the ability to make decisions and to face up to rules.
It’s a slow, ongoing process that will follow your child throughout his or her life. While your child is probably already seeking autonomy on a daily basis, it is the parents’ responsibility to play the role of companion. Follow the pace set by your child and be patient in guiding him as he learns.
Why is it important to develop my child’s independence?
From an early age, your child will express a desire to develop his or her independence. Supporting them in this learning process will have a very positive effect on their development.
Independence is first and foremost an expression of self-confidence and self-esteem. Your child needs this to be able to face situations alone. Helping your child to develop their independence will therefore help them to improve their self-confidence.
Acquiring independence also develops their social skills by encouraging interaction with others and managing their emotions.
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How can I develop my child’s independence?
Although it would be counterproductive to force your child to learn to be independent, you can still stimulate them by applying these tips.
- Make them responsible: do you cook with your child? Don’t just explain to them what you’re doing: give them a central role in carrying out the task.
- Give your child the choice: it may seem obvious, but letting go can be very difficult as a parent. Confront them with the decision-making process from an early age. What clothes does he want to wear? What fruit does he want to eat?
- Accept the little mistakes and blunders: they’re commonplace and part of the process. Offer to help them start again and guide them to encourage them in their learning.
- Congratulate your child: developing independence means recognising what has been achieved. Your child will probably come to you to brag about his achievements, so play along and show him how proud you are!
- Developing independence through play: play is an excellent way for children to develop independence. From a very early age, they are confronted with the rules imposed by a game. Playing also stimulates their imagination and teaches them to look after themselves.
- Don’t do things for them: it’s vital to give your child the time they need, otherwise you risk slowing them down. Be patient, and if you can offer to help, remember that they have the right to refuse. Adapt to their pace and don’t do things for them.
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